going with the changes

Life constantly changes. Often we can't even keep up with the changes. Yet, change can be good. And, generally speaking, we don't have much choice but to roll with the changes.

Sometimes we need to make a career change or there is a change in the family. We all understand change. But, I'm stubborn. I think I would adjust better to even a move. I know man people not only had a career change. You had to be flexible and go with it. There are vast family changes, but most of them require us to make personal changes. It isn't always a choice.

I need to change my lifestyle. I had to leave my career and now I'm home full-time. I am settling in to being home, but I'm having trouble slowing down and taking proper care of myself.

I'm sure I'm not the only one who has had an illness change their lives and their lifestyle. I'm home, but I'm not resting like I should because I feel like I should be cleaning or doing something. I have help. My kids and husband are incredibly helpful. So is my mom.

Like many people I'm just not adjusting to the changes so well. I need to slow down, even though I feel I'm in slow motion as it is. It is a bit like when you (or myself if this hasn't happened to you) find out you're in deep financial trouble. Or, the cars all broke down at once, the dishwasher or fridge is no longer working. It takes a while to let it soak in and then we have to act. We can't just pretend it didn't happen. We have to deal with it.

And so it is with me. (Or anyone who has a chronic illness, endless pain etcetera.) I have already let it sink in- though I may still be in a bit of denial. Now It's time for me to adjust to the changes. I can't send myself to the mechanic like a car or scramble to get the money to replace part of me like an appliance. I do go to the doctor and get acupuncture, but basically, the change has to come from me.

We all have to roll with the changes of life. It has to be the only way to be happy. Being stubborn hasn't gotten me anything. (By the way, I'm only stubborn about myself and what I can do. I'm easily swayed and flexible just about all the time.) I don't know what changes you're dealing with. I hope that you're able to accept what is and change accordingly.

I know I need to (finally) start changing. I need to rest more than anything else. I need to slow down as far as cleaning and doing chores. Well, I need to stop. I need to change my way of thinking so that I take care of myself primarily. My kids are almost 19 and 17, they only need mom a little. I need to say no more often and yes only when I feel well. I need to nurture myself.

I'm taking it one change at a time. We can all roll with it. Imagine how much lower our stress levels will be if we go with it. We can deal with it. We truly can.

Let's all roll with it and find more time to laugh instead of stress.

peace and love,

sunee